In 1999 I searched and found my biology parents.  I was 27 and I found out I got all my traits and character traits from them and not my adoptive parents who raised me for 27 years.  I had an identity crisis and got to a point in my life where I thought, 'where am I in this whole story.  I had to be the nice daughter, good employee, nice family member etc. but who was I?  what did I stand for in my life?  

Because a new century was coming, I decided to completely change course.  My wish was to return to the basics, to my birth, to 0 and then to build myself up the way I want to be, the way I want to live.  No longer the way others wanted me to live.  It was a whole process to empty my entire backpack and get to 0 but when I got there I could start thinking about who I am and what I stand for in my life.  

I have made agreements with myself about what I do and do not want and evaluate myself daily.  That too has been a process but life is 1 big lesson and because of the people who crossed my path, the books I read, sometimes the movies I watched, I manage to do that to this day.  I am a happy person in my deepest soul and I love myself.  That makes life a lot easier, I can handle a lot more, I learn daily and I love me.  Which has led me to love others but because of my way of thinking it also makes it lonely.  Because I love myself I am confident, I know myself very, very well and that comes across as arrogant and narcissistic.  Fortunately I know who and how I am and I wish everyone happiness in themselves and self love!